October 16, 2013
We're up to 175mg! Crazy to look at the little cups of powder and think that we used to barely be able to see it. Slow but steady.
Patrick is asking more and more questions - why can't he have bread on his burger at West Park Tavern? (They get their bread from an outside bakery that makes nut breads too). What kind of nuts do they use mommy? Is it in the bread? Cross contamination is a hard concept for a little one to understand, but we're slowly getting through to him. Why can't I have the cookie mommy? (they have nuts in them buddy). We're trading ice creams for cookies, etc... and he's asking more and more often the why, what, how, explain it to me questions. (And to my mom - I get it now, I must have driven you insane in elementary school, I know I was that kid!) He's also questioning friends (adults) that have brought food into the house for dinner - which is great! He asked about a doughnut this week that he was given for dessert. Maybe the baked goods problem is finally sinking in? I can hope...
We're making steady use of the Allergy Eats app on my phone and reading reviews of restaurants and posting them ourselves. You can't ever make assumptions or be afraid to say clearly that you have an allergy. Recent comment that made me shake my head... "Well since you said he's severely allergic I checked the bread and he probably shouldn't have that." (What if I hadn't said severely!?) Daniel has taken to saying deathly allergic, which feels a bit dramatic but certainly gets their attention! People also don't always seem to get the difference between a tree nut and a peanut. They seem to get it better if you just say he's allergic to NUTS. While that's not entirely true, who cares in the restaurant if it keeps him safe? :)
Places we've loved for their awareness/kindness this month:
West Park Tavern in Cary, NC. The owner (when he's there) is fantastic and always comes by to sanity check the food ingredients with us. He's also been awesome about substituting desserts for the kids that are safe (when he's there they never charge us). Lots of healthy food options (including veggie sides for the kids). The waitstaff are hit or miss on what they know about allergies, but they've clearly been trained to go talk to the head chef if anyone mentions an allergy.
JD's Tavern in Apex, NC. Besides that the bartenders here and staff are just plain FUN and the food is good, these guys are very careful about the kid's food whenever we go here. The kids like to play outside on the patio and the meat/fruit options for the kids are good. No one bats an eye at mention of food allergies and they always ask if there is anything they aren't sure of. Someone has done a good job training their staff!
Elevation Burger in Raleigh (Brier Creek) - the cashier deferred immediately to the manager, who was very cautious and had the same concerns we did with the bread (which we didn't eat). He also came out to check on us when our food came out and to make sure P wasn't too upset about the lack of bread. (I ordered mine without bread too.)
Scary moment: When we were in the mountains with friends and the kids were playing in the driveway, Patrick brought me a handful of cracked open nuts. My heart stopped for a moment as they looked familiar (similar to walnuts and pecans in the shell and the meat looked similar). My friend confirmed they were hickory nuts, which are in the same botanical family as walnuts and pecans. Not a nut you run into often, and it wasn't offered on the bloodwork panel when we had all the nuts tested (they didn't have it). We had the kids throw away all the nuts and scrubbed everybody with soap all the way up their arms and asked them not to pick up any more nuts other than acorns. The good news is that there was no reaction from touching them (or the oils). The allergist says that this does not mean he wouldn't react to touching a walnut or pecan. (We'd have to test and no one wants to do that!) :)
Thanks to all the friends who have helped us keep sanity - not just with allergens. We couldn't do this stuff without you guys. Our communities (of friends!) matter more than they know.